My husband and I waited until our wedding day to kiss each other. I chose to save my kiss for my wedding day long before I met my husband.
Even among Christians, the simple statement, “We’re waiting! I didn’t do it because Josh Harris, my parents, or my church said so.
If a man wasn’t interested in dating me after I said I wasn’t ready to kiss him, I knew he didn’t appreciate me for the right reasons.
By the time I met my husband, however, I had been through a relationship where I’d been pressured to give of myself physically.
Many people seem terrified of kissing their partner on a stage in front of their friends and family.
But in the midst of a long struggle with lust, I found that reserving my kiss allowed me to check my desires and test the motives of men who asked me out.
They are left wondering why he didn’t care, why he didn’t invest, why he dumped them – because, after all, ‘we kissed and it was great! We can demean kissing; make it mean less so we can do it more. But I also wanted a man to know I wasn’t playing around.
Or we can elevate its value and recognize it for the emotional-physical entity that it is. He was going to my affection, because I knew that a lasting love necessitates that kind of perseverance.
I believe this is an issue of balance: that saving your kiss is an individual decision each couple has to make.
That said, today I’m going to dispel five myths about saving your kiss for the wedding day, because they’re false, and they need to go away.
But we don’t have to kiss for ten months, make out a few times and dance around the edge of immorality to really ‘prepare’ for sex on our wedding night. If you love each other, your wedding night does not have to be awkward. This is by far the most ridiculous objection I received when we were dating. When you choose to tie yourself to a man for life, you’ve got 50 years to learn how to kiss.